Freinds with benefits

First things first, situation update.
I decided the ex wasn’t even worth thinking about on the basis that I felt I might actually be falling for Carl (cute American) but as it turns out all I am to him is someone to keep his bed warm till he see’s his girlfriend back in the states. Carl will now be referred to as ‘the arse’.

Friends with benefits.
Do they work and are they a good idea?
Honestly, no.

I for one have been in this situation time and time again. In my late teens the last thing I wanted was a relationship so found this to be very useful for me. Life of the single girl but still having someone there when I needed a little attention. Great, for a short while. Then without a shadow of a doubt one of the two start developing feelings. Normally the girls before the guys, and life is not a movie! I don’t care how many times you see it in the cinema now but starting a relationship this way will not lead to love! No matter how many times I wished it could have.

Don’t get me wrong they are very exciting and enjoyable at the time and I doubt I’ll stop making these special friends but take my advice if you decide to try it for yourself or you have and found they always go bad, leave as soon as you feel anything out of the ordinary in the stomach or heart area. If you are the one who ends up having to break it of to stop things going sour stop sharing your bed as soon as the kiss lingers just that little to long. Biggest give away that things could be changing, I know done it a few times myself.

Casual sex relationships however, can work.
I’ve been having sex with the same guy on and off for 2 and a half years now (never while dating someone) and its great. Sex is amazing, he’s hot and no I don’t want him apart from when I’m feeling frisky. Why does it work? Because we are NOT friends. When we do talk it is only to say are you free? That’s it.

I know a few people are probably going to read this and think I’m giving some horrible advice and corrupting the younger generation. That would be correct if you are younger than 18 (Sex is great kids I won’t lie to you, but you have your whole life to experience it don’t loose your innocence to soon.) and yes sex is always better when your in love and sharing all that happy stuff that right now thanks to ‘the arse’ is making my stomach turn….grrrr arse!

Done in the right manner it can work so no one gets there heart broken and you can be free to enjoy the one thing we all crave BUT it is rare. Be careful my friends.
P.s Always use a condom when being this promiscuous!!!
Much love xxx
Emily