Hanging on

Carl, aka the cute American aka the arse, is no more. I ended up emailing him to ask if he did or not in fact have a girl friend back home. Which I only done because an ex stumbled upon my blog and called me out on my bad behaviour, which he is right about but is a little rich coming from him ( no offence Drew ). Carl does not have a girlfriend,now, but he did and he was honest saying he does not want to date me but he does want to carry on having sex and hanging out….next!!!

Darren is out to. It would appear he only loves me when he is horny. Now if you have read my blog before you would know I am open to the idea of friends with benefits and he knows this to so why the need to lie?

Any men reading this please remember this bit of advice, telling us what you think we wanna hear will only end badly for you. Honesty is always the best policy, especially if our arse does look big in that dress!

Now to today’s subject, why do we stay with someone we know isn’t ‘the one’?
We have all done it, hung in a relationship with someone we know we don’t want to stay with. Sometimes we love them which makes it harder to leave but love isn’t enough on its own. Yes your partner may be a good person, loving and caring but if you feel something is missing and you have tried to address the issues whatever they may be, if you don’t get those butterflies its time for change.
I personally think we hang on because being alone sounds a lot more scary than being with someone. Having someone to talk to about your day and snuggle on the sofa with is great no question and makes the bad days a little easier. Ask yourself this though, if you stay with someone you don’t want to spend your life with how will you actually learn what it is you want?

We need time on our own to learn about ourselves. You might think that’s easier said then done but the only person stopping that from happening is you.

‘we can not grow in the shadows’

I have a friend in this situation right now. She jumped into a relationship after a long term one that ended badly. She regretted ending her previous relationship, more because he didn’t stay single long than he was what she wanted. It made her feel lonely so clung on to the first realistic suitor that came her way. She does love this new guy but doesn’t want to stay with him. She told me she isn’t sure why she is still with him other than that line I hate, ‘but I do love em’ ugh! I love my dog but I wouldn’t let him sleep in my bed with me.

Bottom line? Be brave, take risks, learn to enjoy your own company as well as others and I promise you, you will end up feeling fulfilled and truly loved in time.